John: Glad you enjoyed the movie. It seemed a bit depressing from what I saw of it - sort of a perfect example of the Buddhist notion of excessive attachment.
Me: I don't blame her for the "excessive" attachment. She tried, nothing worked: group therapy, God, friends, colleagues or families; even by erasing the markers of her son's existence. She eventually found solace in communicating with the teenage driver who killed her son. He described the parallel universe and "rabbit hole"-adventure in his comic book. it is a movie does not have much plot, but the quality of the story telling and acting make the pain of loss and struggle for out so tangible. we are human, we attach to things we love, and we struggle to get through darkness.
John: I don't blame her for her attachment either, it is certainly considered normal to have attachment like that in our society. But, it is this type of attachment that is the source of much of our unhappiness.
If we attach ourselves to our good looks, then we become lost when they fade. If we attach ourselves to the idea of being young, then we feel lost when we start to age. It is okay to love our friends and loved ones, but the notion of attachment is somewhat stronger than that. It suggests that we somehow define ourselves through that association and when we lose those loved ones, we have a hard time existing without them.
Personally, it would hurt really badly if I lost any of my kids and my grief might follow a similar path to what we saw in the movie. But, at least I would understand the nature of that grief.
Me: It is a way to teach yourself how to get out of unhappiness, i agree.
But, detachment can be a passive attitude. Most of the Buddhists choose to escape the conventional sense of life and into a world with no pain but also no joy
Wednesday, May 4, 2011
Monday, January 31, 2011
Another song of the day
Have I Told You Lately that I love you?
Have I told you there's no one else above you?
Fill my heart with gladness, take away all my sadness,
Ease my troubles, that's what you do.
For the morning sun in all it's glory,
Meets the day with hope and comfort too,
You fill my life with laughter, somehow you make it better,
Ease my troubles, that's what you do.
There's a love less defined,
And it's yours and it's mine,
Like the sun.
And at the end of the day,
We should give thanks and pray,
To The One, to The One.
Have I Told You Lately that I love you?
Have I told you there's no one else above you?
Fill my heart with gladness, take away all my sadness,
Ease my troubles, that's what you do.
There's a love less defined,
And its yours and its mine,
Like the sun. And at the end of the day,
We should give thanks and pray,
To The One, to The One.
Have I Told You Lately That I Love you?
Have I told you there's no one else above you?
Fill my heart with gladness, take away all my sadness,
Ease my troubles, that's what you do.
Take away all my sadness, fill my life with gladness,
Ease my troubles, that's what you do.
Take away all my sadness, fill my life with gladness,
Ease my troubles, that's what you do.
Have I told you there's no one else above you?
Fill my heart with gladness, take away all my sadness,
Ease my troubles, that's what you do.
For the morning sun in all it's glory,
Meets the day with hope and comfort too,
You fill my life with laughter, somehow you make it better,
Ease my troubles, that's what you do.
There's a love less defined,
And it's yours and it's mine,
Like the sun.
And at the end of the day,
We should give thanks and pray,
To The One, to The One.
Have I Told You Lately that I love you?
Have I told you there's no one else above you?
Fill my heart with gladness, take away all my sadness,
Ease my troubles, that's what you do.
There's a love less defined,
And its yours and its mine,
Like the sun. And at the end of the day,
We should give thanks and pray,
To The One, to The One.
Have I Told You Lately That I Love you?
Have I told you there's no one else above you?
Fill my heart with gladness, take away all my sadness,
Ease my troubles, that's what you do.
Take away all my sadness, fill my life with gladness,
Ease my troubles, that's what you do.
Take away all my sadness, fill my life with gladness,
Ease my troubles, that's what you do.
Saturday, January 22, 2011
Too busy to write
Have not written anything to myself for a while. When life is so occupied, hardly having any room for free thoughts. Everyday seems chasing deadline, and dealing with immediate urgencies, and managing time for exercise and being with loved ones. Made an offer to a house, very excited for moving, and the decoration mood is back to me again.
A balanced life? Hard to keep. Am I over indulged myself in work and “fame”? or it is just the nature of my profession, and my role as a single mom? Hard to figure it out completely, but each of my day is so fulfilled, and appreciate more of stretching myself in bed in the end of the day and falling sleep soundly.
A balanced life? Hard to keep. Am I over indulged myself in work and “fame”? or it is just the nature of my profession, and my role as a single mom? Hard to figure it out completely, but each of my day is so fulfilled, and appreciate more of stretching myself in bed in the end of the day and falling sleep soundly.
Monday, January 3, 2011
Stay with me
Raindrops, Fall From, Everywhere
I Reach Out, For You, But Your Not There
So I Stood, Waiting, In The Dark
With Your Picture, In My Hands
Story Of a Broken Heart
Stay With Me
Don't Let Me Go
Cause I Can't Be Without You
Just Stay With Me
And Hold Me Close
Because I've Built My World Around You
And I Don't Wanna Know What's It Like Without You
So Stay with Me
Just Stay With Me
I'm Trying And Hoping, For The Day
When my touch is enough
To Take The Pain Away
Cause I've Searched For So Long
The Answer Is Clear
We'll be OK if We Don't Let It Disappear
Stay With Me
Don't let Me go
Cause I Can't Be Without You
Just Stay With Me
And Hold Me Close
Because I've Built My World Around You
And I Don't Wanna Know What's it Like Without You
So Stay with Me
Just Stay With Me
I've searched my heart over
So many many times
No you and I, is like no stars to light the sky at night
Our Picture Hangs Out Of Tune
Remind Me Of The Days
You Promised Me We'd Always
And Never Go Away
That's Why I Need You To Stay
Stay With Me
Don't let Me go
Cause I Can't Be Without You
Just Stay With Me
And Hold Me Close
Because I've Built My World Around You
And I Don't Wanna Know What's It Like Without You
So Stay with Me
Just Stay With Me
I Reach Out, For You, But Your Not There
So I Stood, Waiting, In The Dark
With Your Picture, In My Hands
Story Of a Broken Heart
Stay With Me
Don't Let Me Go
Cause I Can't Be Without You
Just Stay With Me
And Hold Me Close
Because I've Built My World Around You
And I Don't Wanna Know What's It Like Without You
So Stay with Me
Just Stay With Me
I'm Trying And Hoping, For The Day
When my touch is enough
To Take The Pain Away
Cause I've Searched For So Long
The Answer Is Clear
We'll be OK if We Don't Let It Disappear
Stay With Me
Don't let Me go
Cause I Can't Be Without You
Just Stay With Me
And Hold Me Close
Because I've Built My World Around You
And I Don't Wanna Know What's it Like Without You
So Stay with Me
Just Stay With Me
I've searched my heart over
So many many times
No you and I, is like no stars to light the sky at night
Our Picture Hangs Out Of Tune
Remind Me Of The Days
You Promised Me We'd Always
And Never Go Away
That's Why I Need You To Stay
Stay With Me
Don't let Me go
Cause I Can't Be Without You
Just Stay With Me
And Hold Me Close
Because I've Built My World Around You
And I Don't Wanna Know What's It Like Without You
So Stay with Me
Just Stay With Me
Thursday, December 16, 2010
Andrea Bocelli - Swear
Promise me,
that although much time may pass
you'll never forget the moment
when I first met you.
Look at me,
there's nothing more profound
nor bigger in this world
than the love I have to you.
Kiss me,
with a kiss so full of love
like no one has ever kissed me
since the day that I was born
Love me,
love me until you feel the madness
and understand the bitter pain
that I am suffering for loving you.
They all say it's a lie that I love you
'cause they've never seen me so in love
I swear to you that I don't know why
the look in your eyes has kept me captivated
When you are near me
and I am happy
I wish that you'd remember no one else
I am jealous even of my thoughts
that may remind you
of another person you once loved.
that although much time may pass
you'll never forget the moment
when I first met you.
Look at me,
there's nothing more profound
nor bigger in this world
than the love I have to you.
Kiss me,
with a kiss so full of love
like no one has ever kissed me
since the day that I was born
Love me,
love me until you feel the madness
and understand the bitter pain
that I am suffering for loving you.
They all say it's a lie that I love you
'cause they've never seen me so in love
I swear to you that I don't know why
the look in your eyes has kept me captivated
When you are near me
and I am happy
I wish that you'd remember no one else
I am jealous even of my thoughts
that may remind you
of another person you once loved.
Monday, December 13, 2010
when she loved me-toy story 2
another song from John
When somebody loved me,
Everything was beautiful
Every hour we spent together lives within my heart
And when she was sad,
I was there to dry her tears
And when she was happy,
So was I
When she loved me
Through the summer and the fall
We had each other, that was all
Just she and I together,
Like it was meant to be
And when she was lonely,
I was there to comfort her
And I knew that she loved me
So the years went by
I stayed the same
But she began to drift away
I was left alone
Still I waited for the day
When she'd say I will always love you
Lonely and forgotten,
I'd never thought she'd look my way
And she smiled at me and held me just like she used to do
Like she loved me
When she loved me
When somebody loved me
Everything was beautiful
Every hour we spent together lives within my heart
When she loved me
When somebody loved me,
Everything was beautiful
Every hour we spent together lives within my heart
And when she was sad,
I was there to dry her tears
And when she was happy,
So was I
When she loved me
Through the summer and the fall
We had each other, that was all
Just she and I together,
Like it was meant to be
And when she was lonely,
I was there to comfort her
And I knew that she loved me
So the years went by
I stayed the same
But she began to drift away
I was left alone
Still I waited for the day
When she'd say I will always love you
Lonely and forgotten,
I'd never thought she'd look my way
And she smiled at me and held me just like she used to do
Like she loved me
When she loved me
When somebody loved me
Everything was beautiful
Every hour we spent together lives within my heart
When she loved me
today's song
John has been senting me one song a day
12/13/2010
James Taylor: Your Smiling Face Lyrics
Whenever I see your smiling face
I have to smile myself
Because I love you (Yes, I do)
And when you give me that pretty little pout
It turns me inside out
There's something about you, baby (I don't know)
(Chorus)
Isn't it amazing a man like me
Can feel this way
Tell me how much longer
It will grow stronger every day
Oh, how much longer
I thought I was in love
A couple of times before
With the girl next door
But that was long before I met you
Now I'm sure that I won't forget you
And I thank my lucky stars
That you are who you are
And not just another lovely lady
Sent down to break my heart
Isn't it amazing a man like me
Can feel this way
Tell me how much longer
It can grow stronger every day
How much longer
No one can tell me that I'm doing wrong today
Whenever I see you smile at me
No one can tell me that I'm doing wrong today
Whenever I see your smiling face my way
No one can tell me that I'm doing wrong today
No one can tell me that I'm doing wrong today
12/13/2010
James Taylor: Your Smiling Face Lyrics
Whenever I see your smiling face
I have to smile myself
Because I love you (Yes, I do)
And when you give me that pretty little pout
It turns me inside out
There's something about you, baby (I don't know)
(Chorus)
Isn't it amazing a man like me
Can feel this way
Tell me how much longer
It will grow stronger every day
Oh, how much longer
I thought I was in love
A couple of times before
With the girl next door
But that was long before I met you
Now I'm sure that I won't forget you
And I thank my lucky stars
That you are who you are
And not just another lovely lady
Sent down to break my heart
Isn't it amazing a man like me
Can feel this way
Tell me how much longer
It can grow stronger every day
How much longer
No one can tell me that I'm doing wrong today
Whenever I see you smile at me
No one can tell me that I'm doing wrong today
Whenever I see your smiling face my way
No one can tell me that I'm doing wrong today
No one can tell me that I'm doing wrong today
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